The question is not whether you are good enough.
The question is how do you want to be?

The question is not whether you are good enough.
The question is how do you want to be?

Couples Counselling and Intercultural Coaching in Vienna

Passionate about human diversity, I support people going through processes of change and encourage authentic decisions, integrity in relationships and focus on personal growth. Particularly in life crises or periods of change, counselling can help to look at things from a new angle.

I have chosen to specialise in intercultural counselling and couples counselling– you can rest  assured that your different issues will be handled with a high degree of tact and sensitivity.

Paarberatung, Interkulturelle Beratung, Coaching

AT A GLANCE

Born in 1986, married, two daughters (2012, 2016)
Languages: German – Spanish – English

 

Education and training

«Treating couples with Crucible Therapy» (Natalie Westera, May to December 2023)

«Mich durch deine Augen sehen» (Systemic Couples Therapy, Klaus Schmidsberger, November 2022)

Workshop „Interkulturelle Beratung“ (Intercultural counselling, Verein Fibel, June 2021)

Workshop „Bikulturelle Paarwelten“ (Counselling of Bicultural Couples, Verein Fibel, June 2021)

2017 – 2020: Training as a life coach and personal counsellor (Wifi Wien)

Further training in Communication and Innovation (University and Chamber of Commerce of Santiago de Compostela, Spain) (2013)

Undergraduate study at the University of Vienna and the University of Santiago de Compostela (Spain). Graduated with a teaching degree (in English & History). Completed training course in “Teaching German as a Foreign and Second Language” (2004-2009)

Professional experience to date

Own practice since 2019

Regular further training and supervision

English teacher at various academic and vocational secondary schools in Austria (since 2009)

Vienna International School: Teacher of German as a foreign language (March 2018 – June 2019)

Involved in running a bilingual playgroup (“Quijote”, 1040 Vienna) (2015-2022)

Work with the NGO “Grenzenlos”: coordination, supervision and support of international volunteers (2017-2020)

Regular stays in South America (Chile) (since 2008)

Adult education instructor (Spain)

Main emphasis: Teaching of Austrian geography and culture (2014)

Study placement in Santiago de Compostela (Spain):

Research on “Motivation in language learning” (2007 – 2008)

Teaching practice at Dunbar School (Scotland) (2005)

Teaching practice at Chapter School, Rochester (England) (2004)

About me

Being part of a multicultural family myself, I have personal experience of situations that can sometimes push us to our limits. My interest in and respect for different cultures and life paths informs both my world view and my counselling and coaching activities.

Born and brought up in the Waldviertel region of Lower Austria, I felt the pull of the big wide world from an early age. My love of languages and the desire to immerse myself in other cultures have stayed with me to this day. Thanks to my husband, who travelled from an island in Chile to the other side of the world to find his path in life, I have experienced first-hand what it means to start afresh time and time again.

The most exciting journey for me so far has been that of motherhood. As the mum of two girls (2012, 2016), I am familiar with all the highs and lows of being a mother and the challenges that can push us to our limits – and beyond.

Passionate about human diversity, I delight in constantly discovering new perspectives and draw upon my rich life experience and sensitivity to counsel and support people going through processes of change.

Methods

I’m convinced that every individual has a huge amount of potential inside them. My aim is to help you unlock that potential. I listen, ask questions, and work with you to try and find out what the core issue is. I provide a safe space with input and suggestions to guide you towards new perspectives. I help you find clarity. And courage to take the next step.

You decide what topics are on the agenda: What do you want to explore – what’s on your mind? I don’t work to a specific method, but choose the approach best suited to the respective individual situation. That might be a conversation with me asking (occasionally unexpected) questions; or perhaps a space to try things out in a creative way: using symbols to visualise emotions; “playing” with figures on a family board;  “feeling” decisions. There is no “right” or “wrong” approach.

My perspective on couple relationships is strongly influenced by the work of sex therapist and author David Schnarch. He says that one of the greatest challenges in a relationship is expressing one’s authentic feelings to one’s partner without being reliant upon the partner’s approval or validation. The desire of one or both partners to branch out in a new direction and let go of their current self can cause upset and uncertainty. In reality, though, it does not mean there is anything wrong with the couple relationship. On the contrary: these developments are a completely natural part of any relationship. The question is how you deal with them and what works for you as a couple.

Info: Counselling is not a substitute for psychotherapeutic or medical treatment. I am happy to refer you to a doctor or psychotherapist if required. Please cancel in good time (48 hours’ notice) if you are unable to keep an appointment.

Todos los servicios también en español. Asesoría online es posible. (Skype etc.)

Couples Counselling

How can your relationship become an opportunity for personal growth? The focus here is not on bending over backwards to “make it work”, but on loosening the gridlock without any particular outcome in mind. Particularly in life crises or periods of change, counselling can help couples look at things from a new angle.

I’ll help you to take full ownership of who you are and bring out the very best in yourself, placing the focus on personal growth and reaching beyond your own limits. Most couples seek professional counselling when their old way of doing things no longer works and they are unable to find a way forward. Usually there is also an unspoken expectation that the counsellor will provide simple tips and tricks to transform either the situation or the other partner. In actual fact, however, progress is not achieved through particular techniques, but through a process of inner change. My role is to support you through this process, asking questions you might not expect as you engage with your own self as well as with your partner. Perhaps then change will occur. A fresh perspective. A different attitude. A new way of thinking.

It’s about giving you the courage to look closely, see that there is no “magic formula” and face up to what is actually there.

Todos los servicios también en español. Asesoría online es posible (Skype etc.)!

Paarberatung in Wien

How it works

​Ideally partners come to couples counselling together, but it can also take place in an individual setting. Yes, you read that correctly: you can also come to couples counselling by yourself. The work you do on yourself is likely to have an effect on your relationship, too. There is no need to encourage or persuade your partner to attend counselling sessions if he/she doesn’t want to. You simply inform him/her that you’ve decided to seek professional support and do your best: for yourself and for your relationship. That is the first step: doing your best by yourself without making it dependent upon what your partner thinks.

In many cases, only a few sessions of counselling are required: the focus is on the here and now. The issues addressed, the pace, and, most importantly, how much you are willing to commit to a growth process, is entirely up to you. I guide you through the process with respectful curiosity, reflect back to you what I am hearing and ask questions to help me understand the dynamics of your couple relationship. In contrast to a psychotherapist, I work exclusively with mentally well people.

Costs

Costs:

Initial consultation: 100 Euros (50 Euros per person) (60min)

Second and subsequent sessions: 150 Euros (75 Euros per person) (90 min)

A discounted rate may be available for those on low incomes – please ask.

Persönlichkeitsentfaltung - Einzelcoaching

How it works

I give you my full attention and approach your issues with respectful curiosity. Our counselling sessions create a space in which you can be a whole person: all feelings, doubts, questions and uncertainties are welcome. The focus is on unpacking your personality: Who are you? What are your thoughts and concerns? If you are in the midst of a crisis, feel completely adrift and unable to cope with the situation; if you can’t even find words for what you’re going through: that’s precisely when a counselling session can help. You decide what topics are on the agenda and how much you are willing to commit to a process of growth and change.

The focus of our work is on the here and now: counselling is not necessarily a long process – sometimes change occurs after just a few sessions. In contrast to a psychotherapist, I work exclusively with mentally well people.

Costs

Costs:

Initial consultation: 50 Euros (50min)

Second and subsequent sessions: 80 Euros (50 min)

A discounted rate may be available for those on low incomes – please ask.

Intercultural Counselling + Coaching

Possible topics:

  • Handling unexpected situations: how to proceed?
  • Decision-making (“What do I really want?”, career, family, personality)
  • Conflicts within the family (partner, parents, child)
  • Child guidance counselling (“Why does my child do that?”, multilingualism)
  • Professional support within the context of couples counselling
  • Being a woman – becoming/being a mother
  • Being a man – becoming/being a father
  • Professional support in life crises relating to childbirth and family planning (desire to have children, pregnancy, traumatic birth, etc.)
  • Intercultural issues (“difficulty in adjusting”, saying goodbye and starting afresh, moving abroad, bicultural relationships, raising multilingual children)
  • Professional support in life crises
  • Self-reflection (“Who am I really?”)

Todos los servicios tambíen en español. Asesoría online es posible (Skype etc)!

Intercultural Counselling

Based on my own wide-ranging experience in both the professional and private contexts, I have chosen to specialise in intercultural counselling. In my view, intercultural work calls for specialist knowledge and a high degree of tact and sensitivity.

The multiple cultures we inhabit (roots & heritage, family culture, couple culture, etc.) often entail different values and mentalities that are repeatedly reshuffled and recalibrated as we pass through our different life phases. Contact with other cultures prompts us to rethink our own views and perceptions: in many cases, it is only by engaging with the “foreign” culture that we truly get to know our “native” one. That may come as a pleasant surprise, but it can also be confusing and overwhelming.

If you’d like to probe any feelings of ambivalence and explore your “native” and “foreign” cultures in a spirit of curiosity … perhaps even evolving a brand new one of your own in the process – you’ve come to the right place. In our counselling sessions you can rest assured that space and specific attention will be devoted to all your different “cultures”. Maybe you’ll even discover a whole new way of looking at things!

Find out more about me and my work here:

Die Presse “Die Kunst des Streitens” (Artikel Juli 2022) 

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Contact

Mag.a Elisabeth Herrera
Life-Coach (Lebens-und Sozialberaterin)

Praxis: 
Lerchenfelder Gürtel 16/11 (1st floor)
1070 Vienna
U6 Thaliastraße, Linie 5 or 48A (Neustiftgasse)

Phone: +43 680 30 97 431
Email: kontakt@mutreise.at

Elisabeth Herrera von Mutreise